Ephesians 6:2 Meaning and Explanation
“Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;”
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Read Full Chapter →Households can drift into treating respect for parents as a matter of temperament or family mood. Paul settles the question by reaching back to Sinai and reminding the Ephesians that this particular command carries an attached promise. Reading it here shows how the ancient law still shapes ordinary Christian homes, and why obedience in verse one has deep roots.
Paul quotes the fifth commandment to Christian children, noting that God attached a promise to it. Honouring parents is a lasting obligation, weighted with divine blessing and grounded in God's own law.
The Context of Ephesians 6:2
Ephesians 6 opens a short household section that began at 5:22 with wives and husbands. Paul now addresses children directly, then fathers in verse 4, then servants and masters through verse 9. Verse 1 commands obedience to parents in the Lord and calls it right. Verse 2 supplies the scriptural warrant by citing the fifth commandment from Exodus 20:12, and verse 3 completes the quotation with its promise. The letter was written to believers in Ephesus while Paul was in bonds, as verse 20 notes. The armour passage follows from verse 10 onward.
What Does Ephesians 6:2 Mean?
The command arrives in the imperative: Honour thy father and mother. Honour reaches wider than obedience, since obedience belongs to the years of childhood while honour holds for a lifetime. Paul keeps the singular thy, addressing each child personally within the gathered congregation where the letter would be read aloud. He then adds a comment on the commandment itself, calling it the first commandment with promise. The observation concerns the shape of the Decalogue: this is the first of the ten to have a stated blessing attached to it. Paul treats that literary detail as theologically significant, worth pausing over when he instructs young believers about life at home.
Placing a Sinai commandment inside instruction for a congregation shows how Paul reads the law. He has just described a household ordered by reverence for Christ, and he grounds each relationship in something God has already spoken. The fifth commandment stands at a hinge in the Decalogue, closing the commands that concern God directly and opening those that concern our neighbours. Honour toward parents therefore carries something of both. Through the Old Testament, Israel's covenant life depended on one generation teaching the next, so a home where parents are honoured is a home where the words of God keep travelling forward. Paul assumes that pattern continues among the Ephesians.
Jesus defended this commandment with unusual force, rebuking a practice that let people withhold support from their parents by declaring their goods dedicated to God. He held the command as binding and living. From the cross he entrusted his mother to a disciple, honouring her at the last hour of his earthly obedience. Luke records that as a boy he went home to Nazareth and was subject to Joseph and Mary. The Son who came to do the Father's will kept the fifth commandment in a human household first. Christian children who honour parents walk a road their Lord walked ahead of them, and they do it with his help.
Ephesians 6:2 in the Original Language
tima (τίμα), 'honour' -- the imperative of timao, to assign weight or value to someone; it covers respect in speech, deference in manner, and practical care, which is why the same word family appears where the New Testament speaks of supporting parents materially.
Bible Verses Related to Ephesians 6:2
“Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.”
- Exodus 20:12
“Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.”
- Deuteronomy 5:16
“For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:”
- Mark 7:10
“Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.”
- Colossians 3:20
Where Ephesians 6:2 Echoes in Scripture
Paul is quoting Exodus 20:12, where the fifth commandment was given at Sinai with its promise about the land. Deuteronomy 5:16 repeats it, adding a clause about things going well. Paul's wording follows that second form closely, which shows how carefully he handled the text he had received. The Ephesian believers, many of them from non-Israelite homes, are handed a commandment first spoken to Israel and told it belongs to them too.
How to Apply Ephesians 6:2 Today
Honour takes concrete shapes at every age. For younger children it looks like listening the first time and speaking to parents with courtesy in front of friends. For grown sons and daughters it can mean phone calls that are unhurried, honest words spoken kindly, financial help when it is needed, and patient care as parents grow frail. Where a parent has caused real harm, honour may look like truthfulness, safe boundaries, and prayer rather than pretending. In every case we can ask what a weighty regard for this person would require of us this month, then do one specific thing about it.
Reflection & Prayer
Which parent, living or gone, comes to mind when the word honour is spoken, and what does that reaction reveal about our own heart? A prayer: Father, thank you for the ones you used to give me life. Teach me to give them weight and kindness, heal what is broken between us, and make my home a place where your commandments are gladly kept.